I have always been a big believer in the right to choose. And I’m not talking about abortion. (As a sidenote, as an extension of my belief in choice, I also happen to be pro-choice pro-choice. Glad we cleared that up.) I see so many people claiming to have made a choice in one way or another, when really they’ve hardly considered the other options at all. Being unaware or ill-informed about one side of an issue does not lead to choice – it leads to dogma.
When it comes to religion, I feel even more strongly about this. A child does not choose to be a Mormon or a Jew or a Muslim any more than they choose their eye-colour. If they don’t have the facts and they aren’t aware of the counter arguments, they are not choosing. They are following.
Choice is all I want for my little BIL and SIL. They are young, unmarried (so far) and in the process of getting educated. I would never tell either of them to leave the Mormon church but I have every intention of giving them some information they may want to consider. I want them to know about the inconsistencies, the lies and the myths. I want them to know what life outside the church looks like. I want them to analyze and weigh the information and then make a choice. That’s all I want. If they get that chance and choose to stay members of the church I will be okay with that.
I always fluctuate between thinking I’m being a meddler and wanting what’s best for them. All I want to give them is information – why are religious people (Mormons in particular) so afraid of information?! Oh right…because when your foundation is built out of sand, information is the water that will sink the whole damn thing.