7 comments on “A Curse on our House

  1. I agree with you 100%, but it’ not a popular opinion. I think people put way too much emphasis on the wrong things. Case in point: Tim Minchin’s “The Pope Song”. I’m not allowed to say “stupid” in front of my nieces or even “butt”. I always feel stifled when I’m around my sister’s family.

  2. I couldn’t agree more. I thought I was the only parent who felt this way. Everyone swears; get over it. Pick your battles!

    Great blog! Keep it up. Seems like every time I find a new mom blog I like, I eventually come across a post about how they couldn’t be a good parent or get through the day or whatever without God’s help. So sick of the delusion!

  3. I’m in total agreement here too. Replacing swear words with other words just creates a new swear word.

    Just out of curiosity though, what would you do if another parent came to you upset that their child learned to swear from your child? I”m not sure how I would handle that situation.

  4. I love this! I swear around my kids, and I have no problem with it. I have a friend who has two step kids, one of which is a 12 year old boy who’s mom and step dad are mormon, but my friend is atheist. One day when she was hanging out with her 12 year old step son, she said dammit and the 12 year old said “I would appreciate it if you wouldn’t say those words around me”. Later that day, the 12 year old said the word “fag” and when my friend asked him about it, he said that he didn’t know what it meant, but that his step father yells that word at the t.v. when watching sports. Needless to say it was a perfect learning experience to explain to this boy that saying dammit doesn’t hurt feelings and isn’t used as a way to be derogatory to someone. “Fag” on the other hand is a whole other ballgame. That word is cruel, ugly and mean. I think a “swear word” is not a big deal, compared with calling names that are truly cruel and that are actually hurtful.

    I’ve explained to my kids that I don’t care if they swear, but if they swear around friends or at school, they will get in trouble with other parents and teachers. I like saying “those are grown up words” more than “swear words”.

    One last funny story, my daughter saw the word “hell” written on something the other day and said “MOM! that says a bad word!” I told her that hell wasn’t a bad word and she asked what hell meant and my friend (who I mentioned above) was with me and said “Well, it’s a pretend place that someone made up and wrote about in a book that you aren’t supposed to talk about”. It ended in a funny conversation about someone making up hell, and then cursing you there if you say the word. Makes perfect sense, right? ;)

  5. We have a rule in our house: when you pay taxes, you are entitled to swear. My 12 year old knows this rule and we talk about it often. He’s been told that once he has a legal job (not odd jobs around the neighborhood) he can swear. But that having a potty mouth might not help him keep his job. It makes for some good conversation.

    We all have had to be careful with our 16 month old in the house, though. She’s already said goddammit, which makes me proud of course. But maybe I can watch my language for a bit, just to let her get the hang of words like “apple” and “thank you” first.

    (Speaking of first, I just found you tonight. Looking forward to reading more!)

  6. I loved this post. I grew up with a dad who was in the Navy so swearing was just part of his language. As a result, by some peoples standards, I swear too much. Now that I have a toddler, my husband and I have been discussing this very issue. We have the same feelings that words are only as powerful as you make them. We plan on teaching our son when and where to use all kinds of words, including swearing.

  7. I love this and feel the same way. My son was 5 when he told a mini-van full of school friends that he’s allowed to say the “c” word (crap) at home. The kids all wanted to know what the c word was and the mom driving was so relieved to hear “crap” come out of his mouth that she almost drove off the road. Chelsea you are exactly right – most swear words are not hurtful! My kids hear fuck and shit on a regular basis – but they have never heard their parents fag or any of the other hurtful names that some of the “good kids” use. Thanks for your blog. Very comforting that I’m not alone!!!

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