This recent video made by the newly formed Brigham Young University USGA (Understanding Same Gender Attraction) made me mad. And sad. And so, so frustrated.
First of all, I have to commend the young people in this video. I am sure it is unbelievably difficult to come out as a Mormon homosexual and then to come out publicly and make a video? That takes real guts. The men and women in this video are courageous and strong. And sadly, they are wrong. It doesn’t get better. It won’t get better until they leave the Mormon church.
This video implies that somehow, the LDS church has changed their draconian ways and come to accept gays into the fold. They have not. All they have done is loosened the rules on being out. You can now say you are gay. And wow! You can even advocate for your rights as a gay person (bring on the Nobel prize). But you cannot be gay.
You cannot hold hands with someone of the same-sex while on campus. You cannot act on your urges in any way, with the exception of in your imagination. You cannot date, fall in love, get married, have children or lead a healthy and full gay life. In other words, you are not entitled to the very things that the Mormon church claims to hold so dear. You are not entitled to be a family.
It makes me sad that these young people are so in love with their church that they are willing to sacrifice their own mental health to remain a member. That is how strong the church is. These young people must make the choice to either remain chaste for their entire lives or overcome their same-sex attraction. That’s right – over come it. Get married and play straight.
If any of the students in the video chose to act on their sexual orientation in any way, they would automatically be excommunicated and kicked out of school. An excerpt from the the BYU Honour Code, which each student must adhere to:
Brigham Young University will respond to homosexual behavior rather than to feelings or attraction and welcomes as full members of the university community all whose behavior meets university standards. Members of the university community can remain in good Honor Code standing if they conduct their lives in a manner consistent with gospel principles and the Honor Code.
One’s stated same-gender attraction is not an Honor Code issue. However, the Honor Code requires all members of the university community to manifest a strict commitment to the law of chastity. Homosexual behavior is inappropriate and violates the Honor Code. Homosexual behavior includes not only sexual relations between members of the same-sex, but all forms of physical intimacy that give expression to homosexual feelings.
The Mormon church does not love gays. It tolerates their existence for political reasons. It doesn have a “space” for them unless you consider perpetual chastity a “space”. This video, while the intent is good, is misleading. It does not get better for gays in the Mormon church. It gets less torturous…that’s about it.
But there is a better way. In the world outside of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, there is a future for these young people. There is a chance for them to be truly accepted. A world where they can be who they are and express it fully. Where they can fall in love and get married if they want and be parents if they want. Where they can be their authentic selves.
Man does this church piss me off.