6 comments on “Parenting Beyond Belief

  1. I love that book. My friend and I discovered it on Amazon one day when we were chatting online about dealing with religious parents/grandparents and how to teach our children to deal with them. We wondered if there was a book out there to help us answer these questions. So we looked online and found “Raising Freethinkers”, which I actually liked far better than “Parenting Beyond Belief”. I was such a great book and resource. I bought it in paperback, and then again on my kindle. I have marked that thing up, highlighted and used the hell out of it. It is truly my parenting bible.

  2. Bought it. Thanks for the resource. Trying to raise three kids in a surprisingly ubber religious San Diego (not to mention the over bearing religious family) is proving difficult. I will check out the book you mentioned too, Chelsea. And why is there not more atheist mom bloggers? I come across about 10 million super religious mom bloggers a day. Your blog is amazing, I want more!!

  3. I recently relocated my family, and not knowing anyone in the area made me realize that it is hard to find like-minded people without offending anyone.
    I decided to join my local Unitarian Universalist congregation. It’s not perfect, but there is no mention of god, or other deities. It’s focused on open discussions and community.
    I am curious on your opinion of them.

  4. I will defintely check out the book. The ‘feeling very alone’ comment really struck home with me as I am not even fortunate enough to say that we are the only atheist family we know – I am the only atheist person I know right now. My husband and children kind of / sort of know how I feel, and two people I consider to be my truest friends are very religious. The entire subject seems to just have no nice way to approach it, thus I have spent a great deal of time the last few months feeling very alone.

  5. Wendy-

    I know exactly how you feel! I was raised fundamentally christian all my life. It was all I knew. I was also a very skeptical person ever since I was a child, but never allowed to fully develop this. I’m 33 yrs. old and about a year and a half ago I decided to read the bible for myself. Long story short……..I saw so much that did not agree with modern christianity and so much that was just plain horrendous! I then researched a lot! For example……the beginnings of christianity (the first 300 yrs and after the nicean council) , other religions, science, psychology, scholarly works on the new testament, ancient hebrew practices……etc….and just plain ol’experience. It was a slow gradual realization that I had been believing a lie ALL my life. I went through intense emotions from fear to sadness to relief. I lost some friends. When I thought I could confide in some friends (christian ones) they could not handle it. Some cried for me. They couldn’t understand how I could change my perspective or world view. It was lonely! Thank goodness for my husband who loves me the same b/c he’s the only one who has stuck around long enough to see that I haven’t changed my moral convictions or all of a sudden become this wicked person. I just decided to be intellectually honest with the information I have learned. I have two boys aged 10 and 5. The 10 yr. old is very smart and grasped this new perspective quickly and easily. In fact, he told me that he is so relieved and no longer afraid of hell. That made me so happy! It hasn’t changed him either. Except he is much more free to question and to think critically about our world. He’s an amazingly good and kind boy! I’m very proud of my son! You are not alone. I decided it was time to make new friends. If my old ones cannot accept me…..I’ve learned to accept that and move on. There is nothing wrong with me and I deserve better. In fact, I have never been happier and more appreciative of life than I am today. I’m going to Costa Rica in March and looking foward to family time and just enjoying the beauty and freedom of life! Hang in there Wendy. I’m sure you are a great person and you will find your way. It takes time. Be confident in your convictions and don’t ever apologize for them. Lead you children with moral convictions and happiness.

    • Thank you Ruthie! This was very inspiring. My 16 year old has I think accepted my beliefs, however it is not something that gets discussed alot. When the topic has come up, my youngest (who is 9) seemed sad. There seems not to be any issues with my husband but again, it isn’t really discussed. It is almost like I am afraid to come right out and talk about it, but that is something that I am working on. It isn’t something that I feel that I need to harp on day in and day out but there have been a lot of instances lately (primarily Christmas) that have left me feeling the oddball out because we do what is considered ‘normal’ at all of the family functions. I know that there is a strong chance that I will lose friends. I have been reading a lot and looking for new friends who share my beliefs so that I have some support and will feel more comfortable being more verbal about the subject. I don’t know if this is normal (or was normal) for others, but right now I find myself still very defensive and almost angry when others are enjoying and relishing in thier beliefs (saying grace at dinner, etc) and feeling connected. I love reading the different atheist perspectives and I really want to be able to get to a point where I can be objective and also be happy. I’m sure it will happen. Thanks again for your kind reply. Happy New Year!

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